I have been pondering that question a lot lately... when do we really grow up??
I feel like so much "growing up" actually happens as adults. I think that it took turning 30 and having my 3 kids always with me to finally no longer picture myself as a 21 year old. Seriously, I constantly thought of myself as if I was just finishing up college. I desired to spend my time as if I still just had myself to worry about... wondering when I could escape to the coffee shop to chat with a friend or go on a date with Mr. Steady. Not only have I grown up a little in my self perception, but hopefully in all other ways as well : )
As my friend Nic wrote about here that the house they owned when she had her first 3 kids is where she "grew up." Isn't that so true, how much growing up happens for us as adults when we have kids. Not saying to my faithful readers that are not yet parents that you are not a grown up... there is just so much that changes when these little people steal a piece of your heart and every second of your day.
Recently I was talking with one of my dear friends and she shared with me how much she was missing her dad. He passed away 3 years ago. She said that she just missed his influence over her life at this critical stage of growing up. It is, for many of us mid 20's to mid 30's that we establish our families; that we lay the ground work and start to raise our kids. During this time we figure out who we really are.
I have had many friends say that they loved being 30. Because, for the first time in life they truly accepted who they are, who God created them to be, not hindered by what others think. Ahh, that sounds so refreshing. I would love to proclaim that I have arrived. I mean I have been 30 now for a little more than 6 months : ) I am not there yet, but I do see huge growth in that direction. For me I wouldn't say that it was just because I turned 30, but more from other influences at this time in my life. Having 3 young kids that depend on me every day is stretching, but knowing that they are learning from my example is completely humbling! But a bigger influence than that, has been God working in my heart, teaching me, stretching me and showing me that really I am NOTHING without Him. Whew, how is that for some growing up?!? Growing out of our self-reliance and self-focus and growing into humble reliance on our Creator and focusing on showing others love and grace.
Here is to growing up and becoming who we were created to be. May we all be "growing up" more every day.